Husband dating another woman adultery
They might even have heard the startling news that God Himself sent the lover and that He wants them to be together. The fact is that even in these situations a possibility exists that the marriage can be saved and, with time, made good again.
Maybe your abandoning spouse had a period of hesitation.He or she tried to end the affair, and told you that they were willing to work on the marriage.Maybe the paramour found a way to get to him or her, rekindled the passion and convinced your spouse that he or she will never be happy without them.Sometimes your questions hit harder and your spouse reacted with anger or sarcasm, telling you that you’re paranoid. Maybe your spouse cajoled, or threatened, in a concerted effort to keep you from telling anyone what was happening.If you suspected a particular person, your spouse reassured you that there was nothing going on and that this person is a friend…maybe even your friend…and it wasn’t fair to think that about them. Eventually, your mate told you that it’s over between the two of you. He or she did everything possible to keep you from going to your church leaders, their boss, your family, your in-laws, and maybe even your best friend.I’ll make another admission; I’ve gone through marriage intensives with couples that at the end I would have predicted there was no way they would heal their marriage. For example, recently a couple came through our weekend intensive workshop for marriages in crisis that shared a remarkable story. Like so many others they didn’t understand the danger and forged ahead with a friendship that was destined to become a passion.
Though highly involved in their church, she had gotten too close to another member and that had gradually led to adultery. By the time they realized they were on the wrong path, they were so enmeshed with each other that they were convinced that the best thing for everyone – spouses, children, church – was to divorce their spouses and marry each other.
However, I’ve witnessed case after case in which those marriages were saved, sometimes even after the divorce took place.
One couple remarried after being divorced ten years! There are marriages that are doomed and no matter what happens, it will end and never be healed.
The night she told her husband her plans, the emotion was so intense that soon she was in a deep sleep. The real cause of her deep slumber was the depth of her emotional state.
Nevertheless, he spent the rest of the night praying over her sleeping body.
On the other hand, for many years I’ve seen the salvaging of marriages that seemingly everyone else has given up on.